Level Up: A New Space for Men Who Want More
Not therapy. Not posturing. Just the tools you were never taught and the space to use them.
Some serious questions for men:
Are there aspects of your life that aren’t working?
Are you struggling romantically?
Are you regularly clashing with your kids, your partner, your coworkers, others?
Do you feel like people don’t respect you?
A lot of men tell me they feel this way, and there’s a good reason for that…. being a man in modern society is difficult.
There are challenges we don’t often talk about. You're expected to be stable and successful in a variety of ways that many of us were never really taught how to do
Level Up: Embrace the Grind
I’ve created a group to help men who might be feeling that way. Level Up is a free space- a private Facebook Group- for men who are ready to grow —not because they’re broken, but because they’re ambitious. I believe that the path to real success in relationships, work, and life more generally starts by unlocking the skills you may never have been taught growing up.
Calmness under pressure
Accountability
Self-respect
Emotional sensitivity and resilience
I’m embracing a video game metaphor because just like a video game, success takes time, patience, and effort. You can’t skip levels and every failed attempt is an opportunity to learn to do it better on the next try.
This isn’t therapy, and it’s not tough-guy posturing either. It’s a space for honest conversation, self-reflection, and the kind of mindset shifts that actually move the needle. You don’t need to be perfect to start. You just need to show up and be willing to play the game.
If you want to learn more about why I’m doing this, I wrote about it for Huffpost a few months ago: I've Studied Anger For Decades. Then An Encounter With A Man After Trump Won Changed Everything.
In that article, I wrote….
As for me, I want to speak more intentionally with men, especially young men, who may need help and support. I want to be a role model to those who need one. I want to listen more — while still pushing back when I disagree — but always leading with a desire to understand and support. I can’t promise that we’ll always agree (in fact, I’m fairly sure we won’t). I can’t promise that I’ll never make anyone angry (in fact, I’m fairly sure I will). What I can promise is that I’ll listen and that I’ll create a space to share ideas.
Level Up is my very intentional effort to do just that… to understand and support.
Since then, I’ve been researching and writing a lot about men’s emotional wellbeing. I’ve been doing talks on the subject, sharing my ideas with people on social media, and most importantly… listening.
I want to keep those efforts up while also building a community of men who want to do the work.
I’m committed to working more directly with men who want to address their emotional agility and strength. You can learn more about my work at All the Rage Science (alltheragescience.com) or by joining Level Up.